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Don’t Blame Jenny Blame Al….

Moms are getting a bad rap these days…

Everyone seems to be talking about how stupid some moms can be…

Everyone is just pointing and laughing at these moms that aren’t vaccinating their kids….

My kids got their vaccinations, but I would be lying if I said I didn’t think twice.  I would be lying if I said that I didn’t space out the vaccines a little more than the pediatrician prescribed.  I would be lying if I hadn’t thought in my mind, “Is he really going to get measles or rubella?”

Just because modern-day mothers collectively brought back a bunch of deadly diseases from the prehistoric times, everyone is dissing them.

But you stuffy “doctor-listeners” don’t know what life is like for us.

Women who were moms in the 50’s to 70’s and beyond are quick to judge today’s mothers and shake their heads when they hear the news that they are choosing to not vaccinate their children.  When I expressed concern about vaccinations when my kids were little, my own mother said “Don’t be ridiculous, you and your brother were vaccinated and you are both fine.”

Ok, but today’s vaccines are NOT what the original vaccines were.  They are over-manufactured and preserved and are lumped together with other vaccines.  I don’t really know what any of that means – except that it’s not the same vaccine that me and my brother received.

Secondly, we live in a world that is ruled by social media.  Our news feeds are filled with various articles and blogs and headlines announcing what we should be scared about for our children.  It is overwhelming and scary.  We are trying to do our best and every hour that we tune in to the news or facebook, we are told that we are failing.

Let me give you a haughty know-it-alls a quick perusal of the news items I found just TODAY that I need to worry about:

#1 – “Dry Drowning”

In the olden times – your children would take a swim and then they would come home and eat dinner and go to bed.  Well those days are over.  They can drown in their sleep!!! If you saw them ingest any water at all – then you must keep them awake all night so that they don’t die.

I actually have to worry about them drowning in real life- since they are horrible swimmers – but now I have to worry too about the sleep drowning…..Apparently this is “Nightmare on Elm Street.”


Oh…OK Dr. Hoehn – how about I never sleep again?

Then there’s the whole “Goldfish cracker” situation….


Um….OK…..I will only have kids eat them once a day instead of three times a day????

Ok....we're fucked.

Ok….we’re fucked.

Then there’s the whole soda situation.  I would never let my kids drink soda – except on a special occasion…

Apparently even that is really asking for trouble.

So if you decide to let your children drink soda - be prepared to have them destroy your home and beat the shit out of you and others.

So if you decide to let your children drink soda – be prepared to have them destroy your home and beat the shit out of you and others.

And then there’s the whole “screen time” dilemma….

You let your kids watch television and play x-box?? Well don't complain when they are suicidal and fat....

You let your kids watch television and play x-box?? Well don’t complain when they are suicidal and fat….

So it’s only logical that when we are inundated with information that can help us to prevent our children from dying or being severely physically or mentally ill that we would be scared or confused.

Older generations cannot relate to our frozen state of fear.

Why would they? They lived the “life of Reilly” where they could perform their parenting skills to the best of their ability with no worries or fears.

In olden times mothers would wake up and feed their children Pop Tarts (red dye and high fructose corn syrup will kill you) and regular old milk from the store (artificial growth hormone will cause cancer.) 

They would then pack a lunch of a baloney(carcinogens will cause cancer) or peanut butter and jelly(sugar and allergy causing ingredients) on white bread (refined white flour will cause diabetes.)  

Then they would spend their day smoking cigarettes inside their home (second hand smoke will kill you and your children) and talking on the phone (today’s cell phones send waves into your head that cause brain cancer) and clean using regular cleaning products purchased at the store(ammonia fumes can cause immediate danger to skin and lungs.) 

They would do laundry using fabric softener (toxic softeners can wreak havoc on the nervous system)

When the kids arrived home from school off the bus (that could crash at any minute) they would have a traditional American snack of cookies (childhood obesity) and the toxic milk again.  They would then go outside to play unattended, while moms had only a vague idea of their whereabouts (threats of abduction or child molestation.) 

The children would then come inside and either do homework or watch Sesame Street, Mister Rodgers and Electric Company(3 hours of screen time could cause obesity, ADHD, autism, mental illness and physical agressions.)

At bedtime the children would brush their teeth with the same toothpaste as their parents. (fluoride is an “endocrine disruptor” and can affect many things in the body, including the bones, the brain, the thyroid gland.)

And then they would get into their beds and go to sleep without any parents in their bed with them (NATURALCHILD.ORG actually SAYS that Babies and children have perished in fires, have been sexually abused by visiting relatives, have been abducted from their bed, have been attacked by pets, have suffocated after vomiting, and have died or been injured in various ways that could have been prevented had a parent been nearby to help.)

Days and days could go by like this with the mother having no fears or worries.

Short of the surgeon general visiting in person – there was no chance of anyone telling her that she was doing a bad job.

We will never have a day go by when we don’t second guess what we are doing.

SO IS IT ANY WONDER ???? That when a perfectly normal former playboy playmate     Donnie Walburg’s girlfriend 

tells us that she has the answers to prevent autism, we listen?!!

I see no real reason not to listen to this woman....

I see no real reason not to listen to this woman….

We don’t know the answers.  We aren’t pretending to be scientists or doctors.

We are scared!

We are riddled with guilt and worry.

If I hear Jenny tell a story about her perfectly healthy son who got vaccinated and then could no longer speak or respond appropriately, I am going to consider this.

I am going to then google “vaccines and autism.”

I am going to be met with millions of accounts and reports of children who negatively reacted to vaccinations.

It’s not Jenny McCarthy that is to blame for our lack of confidence in vaccinations.

It is the world wide web.

If anyone is to blame at all for this it’s Al Gore for inventing the internet!


We are not stupid.

We are not making rash decisions.

We are trying to weed through the overwhelming amount of evidence pointing to causes and reasons for our children to become sick or die.

We are trying to keep our children safe and healthy in a very treacherous world.

We are doing our best and so is Jenny, so don’t hate us.






14 responses »

  1. I agree with your point on information overload. I would recommend learning how to recognize valid studies for health care decisions and not anecdotal stories. As a result of the Lancet article regarding the measles vaccine, that vaccine has been studied more than any and not one study showed any link with autism, yet anecdotal stories abound.

    • Exactly! I totally agree that Mothers are made to fear so much. But you have to be able to recognize the red flags that a claim is baseless — and move on from it. I get frustrated by how quickly these claims are spread. Hell, the “fears” included in this article shouldn’t even be shared. Best way to acknowledge that the internet is a shit storm of misinformation is NOT to perpetuate that ridiculous fear.

  2. Susan Maccarelli

    Loved it!

  3. If you are getting overwhelmed by all the crapola of “information” on social media and “entertainment” news shows, Just get your medical advice from your doctor / pediatrician instead, y’know the people who actually studied for probably a decade to get their credentials instead of crack-pots on the internet.

  4. Simple solution: don’t use the internet, vaccinate your kids and don’t worry about GMOs. People like Foodbabe and Jenny McCarthy feed on fear. Without you being scared they don’t sell any of their products or get the attention they so crave. It seems common sense and doing what your doctor tells you has been replaced by conspiracists and shady snake oil peddlers. By the way, Al Gore didn’t invent the internet.

  5. Should consider not getting information from social Media, for Vaccines, your doctor is probably better than a random person on social media. for stuff about your car, I would suggest a mechanic. etc etc

  6. No one is “made” to fear! Your problem is your easy acceptance of fluff news and crap on the Internet. Some of the biggest markets today are for absolute crap, with made up claims and flimsy-to-none as far as supporting evidence.

    About foods: superfoods, organic, GMO, conventional:

    – There is no such thing as a superfood. There are made up to take people’s money.

    – GMOs are not toxic; toxins in general are complete nonsense; detoxing is scam.

    – GMOs and conventional produce and meats are safe and in many cases get to you with fewer pesticides and synthetic chemicals than organic or non-GMO products.
    Organic farming often uses more and more dangerous pesticides than conventional agriculture. The “no pesticides” or “no chemicals” that you hear about are just myths.

    – You can often find fresher and tastier vegetables, fruit and sometimes meat at a farmer’s market. Buy local if you can because it tastes better and unless they’re price-gouging will be competitive to supermarket prices for seasonal food.

    – Your good health does not depend on fad diets, strict counting, or special magic foods. Eat high-calorie things in moderation and plenty of servings of fresh vegetables, fruits, and fish.

    – Less meat is better, but unless you have a moral compunction, there’s no need to be a strict vegetarian or vegan.

    About medicine, alternative medicine, pseudoscience, and woo:

    – Vitamins and supplements are unnecessary except in unusual cases. Even in those cases, a multivitamin will usually be all that is needed. The vast majority are guesses, pure hokum and snake oil.

    – See real doctors (MDs) for your physical and mental health! Sure there are some crazy ones and some bad ones, but overall they practice evidence and science-based medicine — the real deal. On the other hand, you’re guaranteeing yourself a load of bullshit from the others: Chiropractors, D.O.s, Osteopaths, Naturopaths, Reikei , Acupuncturists, Holistic doctors, and Homeopaths are not based on science. They sometimes make people feel better emotionally because they can spend more personal time, but their medical background is based on imagined nonsense, and their advice and medicines are crap. Homeopaths are the bottom of the barrel: if they are actual homeopaths, they provide only water, alcohol, and sugar with no measurable volumes actual medicine. If they provide actual quantities of medicine or “remedies” as they call it, they’re not really homeopaths, which is just as dodgy!

    – Disease is not greater now than 50 to 100 years ago. To some people, it seems so because there are so many more people now. While proportions are about the same in each age group, the much higher population makes the total count of people with cancer and other diseases higher. Additionally, people are living longer, which makes them more likely to get sick. Other disorders, like autism, are being diagnosed better and earlier, making the numbers appear higher.

    About marketing and the media:

    – The organic food, herbal remedy, dietary supplement, and “alternative” medicine industries are marketing-driven, and not based on real science. Some things may be useful in some situations, but only rarely and not very predictably. There’s certainly no need to ponder and fret about them.

    – Many people are really hung up now about “natural” and “organic” food, though there’s really no rationality behind it: in most cases they are no more healthy or nutritious than regular food. The belief that things are better simply because they are more natural is a fallacy that is easy to fall for: it’s called an “appeal to nature,” or sometimes the “naturalistic fallacy.” It’s charming to think that back in hunter-gatherer days, mankind was more robust and healthy, but it’s simply not true. It’s a modern fantasy, magical thinking about a pretended past, a Garden of Eden of the imagination.

    – TV shows and magazines cater to drama and arouse fear in order to get ratings and sales; their content is marketing-driven too, and not based on reality.
    Specifically about Monsanto, GMOs, and industrial agriculture,

    – Monsanto does not even come close to “controlling the food supply.” The last number I saw, from 2013 or 2014, they sold 37% of the seeds to farmers in the US.

    – Almost all of the Round Up (glyphosate) comes from China, not Monsanto.

    – GMO soybeans will be in the public domain, so growable by anyone, in a month or two.


    You may have friends who insist that you just have to follow some fad, eat some superfood, avoid something like wheat, take advice from Food Babe or Health Ranger. You have to be strong enough to disagree. They’ll tell you to do your own research; well, when you do, you must find actual science-based information, not the fear-mongering web sites and shows of the science deniers, quacks, and con artists!

    Vaccinate your damn kids! Some of the worst crackpots and most dangerous conspiracy theorists in the world are anti-vaxxers. They’re deluded but insistent.

    This is an overview of the things I’ve learned over the last few years. I haven’t had time to find and write up references, but I hope some other people can provide those.

  7. Wow…looks like you hit a nerve with some folks. It’s so hard to explain the fear and guilt that comes with motherhood to those who have never experienced it. If I truly believed our government and health care industry had our best interests at heart, it might be easy to trust, but….

    Great post — and you’re doing a great job, mama!

  8. Anyone who actually got their medical advice from Jenny M needs their head checked sorry but it is true. Find a reliable pediatrician and do your research their are many reputable sites/books with good “non fear” information. Pediatricians have no problem mothers spacing their vaccines work with them and they will work with you – it is people who do not vaccinate because Jenny said so that drive me crazy. Last time I heard she back peddled her ass on the whole thing. I lived in Marin California the land of the modern day faux hippie and part time tree hugger. Most of these so called new age hippies do not vaccinate because it is trendy as they roll around town in their 100,00 Range Rovers. Yes trendy and because it is the new thing to do. This is not about YOU anymore it is about what is best for the child and to protect the child and people around them. For the last 3 years their has been an epidemic of whooping cough in Marin because the parents there do not “believe” in vaccinations yadda yadda yadda. This is not 1842 this is 2015. I am a mom and understand the fear and I was when getting my daughter vaccinated but i worked with her doctor and we did 2 shots each cycle visit and besides her being a bit cranky from getting her shots she was fine. I understand that not all kids are the same ans some will have allergic reactions but not autism. The “doctor” we came up with this theory has been discredited.

    Andrew Jeremy Wakefield (born c. 1957) is a British former surgeon and medical researcher, known for his fraudulent 1998 research paper in support of the now-discredited claim that there is a link between the administration of the measles, mumps and rubella (MMR) vaccine, and the appearance of autism and bowel disease.[1][2][3][4][5]

    After the publication of the paper, other researchers were unable to reproduce Wakefield’s findings or confirm his hypothesis of an association between the MMR vaccine and autism,[6] or autism and gastrointestinal disease.[7] A 2004 investigation by Sunday Times reporter Brian Deer identified undisclosed financial conflicts of interest on Wakefield’s part,[8] and most of his co-authors then withdrew their support for the study’s interpretations.[9] The British General Medical Council (GMC) conducted an inquiry into allegations of misconduct against Wakefield and two former colleagues.[10] The investigation centred on Deer’s numerous findings, including that children with autism were subjected to unnecessary invasive medical procedures,[11] such as colonoscopy and lumbar puncture, and that Wakefield acted without the required ethical approval from an institutional review board.

    On 28 January 2010, a five-member statutory tribunal of the GMC found three dozen charges proved, including four counts of dishonesty and 12 counts involving the abuse of developmentally challenged children.[12] The panel ruled that Wakefield had “failed in his duties as a responsible consultant”, acted both against the interests of his patients, and “dishonestly and irresponsibly” in his published research.[13][14][15] The Lancet immediately and fully retracted his 1998 publication on the basis of the GMC’s findings, noting that elements of the manuscript had been falsified.[16] The Lancet’s editor-in-chief Richard Horton said the paper was “utterly false” and that the journal had been “deceived”.[17] Three months later, Wakefield was struck off the Medical Register in May 2010, with a statement identifying deliberate falsification in The Lancet research,[18] and is barred from practising medicine in the UK.[19]

    In January 2011, an editorial accompanying an article by Brian Deer in BMJ identified Wakefield’s work as an “elaborate fraud”.[1][20][21] In a follow-up article,[22] Deer said that Wakefield had planned to launch a venture on the back of an MMR vaccination scare that would profit from new medical tests and “litigation driven testing”.[23] In November 2011, yet another report in BMJ[24] revealed original raw data indicating that, contrary to Wakefield’s claims in The Lancet, children in his research did not have inflammatory bowel disease.[25][26]

    Wakefield’s study and his claim that the MMR vaccine might cause autism led to a decline in vaccination rates in the United States, United Kingdom and Ireland and a corresponding rise in measles and mumps, resulting in serious illness and deaths, and his continued warnings against the vaccine have contributed to a climate of distrust of all vaccines and the reemergence of other previously controlled diseases.[27][28][29] Wakefield has continued to defend his research and conclusions, saying there was no fraud, hoax or profit motive.[30][31] As recently as February 2015, he publicly repeated his denials and refused to back down from his assertions,[32] despite the fact — as stated by a British Administrative Court Justice in a related decision — that “there is now no respectable body of opinion which supports [Dr. Wakefield’s] hypothesis, that MMR vaccine and autism/enterocolitis are causally linked.”[33]

  9. And that is why I tell my child that the little babies in “Sunfish” pee in the pool water. My kid thinks it’s hilarious to put the pool water in his mouth and spit it out like his a living water fountain —- never mind….

    The internet is oozing with misinformation and that breeds undue fear. The most reliable sources are your physicians to make educated decisions regarding immunizations. If you don’t feel comfortable with their opinion, moms are more than welcome to ask another. What I don’t like is this major divide – this hate. I choose to immunize my child because I believe that it is the safe thing to do. I believe that all children should be but if a parent chooses not to, that is their choice and I have to be respectful of that.

    My son received the wrong immunizations at 6 months because his nurse was as bright as the bottom of a running shoe. She said that he looked older….so she gave him the wrong ones. Anyways, he’s fine. I don’t know where I was going with that.


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