Everyone is all abuzz about the latest book from one of America’s top female executives.
Sheryl Sandberg has published a book titled “Lean In,” outlining out women can succeed in today’s world, and how they can avoid holding themselves back.
She suggests that many women fear if they climb too high at the office then they won’t have enough time for their children.
She offers ways to get over that and “lean in” towards your career goals instead of “pushing away” from success in order to care for the children that you chose to bring into this world.
Well Sheryl…I am leaning out.
I am sure that she hasn’t become one of Fortune’s list of the 50 Most Powerful Women in Business and as one of Time’s 100 Most Influential People in the World, by sitting around joining playgroups and making fun of Kim Kardashian on her blog…but still.
These women crack me up. She says that when we stop being afraid of success we can “pursue our goals with gusto!”
The only thing I am doing with “gusto” around here is drinking and consuming carbs. Is it not enough that you are a gazillionaire Sheryl? Do you have to rub our noses in it? Do you have to tell us that it is within our reach to be successful but it’s our own stupid faults for being afraid of success?
I am not afraid of success…I wish I was successful. I wish I could be writing this from Lisa Vanderplump’s mansion in Beverly Hill right now. That would be totally awesome. What I am afraid of is raising two monsters who will grow up being cared for by a series of nannies and after-school programs to be fat, disrespectful, idiots with no family values.
I have mentioned that “I sell push-up bras part-time.” That 20 hours of menial work has taken me away from conferences, games and having dinner with my family many times. If my little job takes up my time, let’s try to imagine all the time that it takes for Sheryl to be a COO of a Fortune 500 company.
Let’s face facts, there’s no way that Sheryl is interacting regularly or (dare I say), as much as she should with her children, and she states in the book that she herself has grappled with guilt and concern for her children.
Her message is push that guilt and worry aside and reach for the gold! You can do it women!!
Great Sheryl - now you are even making the women who are working feel bad. Can’t you just enjoy the view from your spacious Facebook office and your Louboutin and white sweater collection and leave us alone?
I have chosen to bring these two boys to life and I feel it’s my responsiblity to be with them as much as I can. I have to say Sheryl say she does not look down upon stay-at-home parents,
she just secretly thinks we are all big fat losers.
I would love nothing more than to go full-steam ahead with my push-up bra career, but to what end? We have to be real – when you choose to “lean in” and focus so intently on career, who are leaving something or someone behind. That is just fact.
Who is watching this woman’s children? Who is tucking them in at night? Who is getting them off of the bus or watching their soccer game? If hired help or even a husband is doing all of that, then that is a very conscious decision that one must make as a mother.
Sheryl says on her blog, “Together, we can create a world where everyone—women and men, girls and boys—has true choice and equal opportunity to follow his or her dreams.”
She seems very nice and positive, but this is simply not true.
I have said many times that Mr. Gaga is extremely supportive, very helpful with the children and the household chores, and is possibly one of the most patient and loving men I know. Yet none of that takes any weight off my shoulders. Simply because he is not a mom, he will never be a mom and that is innately the trouble with this whole debate.
We will never be equal. Men and women are inherently different and always will be. Maybe we would feel better if we could accept that a little bit, take off our power suits and just know that there are no answers to having it all and there never will be.
For my purposes, I am decidedly “leaning out.” With no real Fortune magazine-worthy career to escape to….I am here for the better part of Sam and Michael’s childhood wallowing in guilt and self-pity just as much as all of the working moms are for different reasons.
I asked a friend (who appears to juggle 3 children’s busy activities, a household and a career with “gusto.”) if she was happy with her life.
Her answer was very interesting to me. She thought about it and went on to list some concerns, stuff she worries about and some parenting she thinks could use improvement on. She stopped to think about other moms she knew that seemed to be “doing it all.”
She said , “You know now that I think about it I can’t think of one mother I know that would answer that question by saying, ‘Yes, I think I am doing a great job.”
Isn’t that sad? Isn’t it the crux of everything? That we will never be fulfilled either way?
And do people have to keep writing books and talking about it in circles?
LEAVE US THE FUCK ALONE SHERYL!! YOU ARE FREAKING US OUT!!!
Can’t I just watch Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and eat 500 Cadbury mini eggs in peace?
Now off she goes to sell 80 million books and rake in some more dough because basically we are so desperate for answers we will read anything.
You know things are bad when I miss ”50 Shades of Gray.”
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